Saturday, March 23, 2013

He's a planner

I love my boys... they make me laugh and shake my head all the time.

I came home two nights ago, after Ezra had been put to bed and Shawn told me he wanted to tell me about something Ezra had done.  I immediately asked "good or bad".  He clarified that it was more in the 'odd' category. 

When Shawn was putting Ezra to bed, Ezra told Shawn that he was going to cry later and wanted to make sure that Shawn would come upstairs into his room when he heard Ezra cry.  Shawn asked Ezra if he was sad and Ezra replied, 'no, not now, later.  I not sad... later I cry'.  So Shawn kept trying to clarify this odd conversation but Ezra was sticking to his story that he wasn't sad, but that he was going to cry later and wanted Shawn to come up when he started to cry.  So that was that.

15 minutes later, Shawn listened--no crying.  About another 15 minutes later Shawn heard Ezra crying... really crying.  When Shawn got into his room, Ezra kept saying that he knocked on the crib, but Shawn didn't come.  Shawn told him that he was there now because he heard him crying.  Finally after a while (and no clarification as to why Ezra had been crying), Ezra calmed down and went to sleep.

Then last night we heard over the baby monitor (we dug that out so that we could hear if he was crying), he started crying again... but different than normal.  It started out random and sort of pushed or forced--not his normal cry.  So I went upstairs to see him and I asked him what was wrong and he looked at me totally normal and said "I crying... see" and he pointed at his tears.  What was odd was, he wasn't sad (he wasn't fake happy either--believe me I totally recognize his sadness covered up with forced happiness).  He was just normal happy Ezra with a tear rolling down his face.  I asked him why he was sad and he said something to the effect that daddy had put him to bed and left him in bed.  I told him that it was because it was bed time and we all had to go to bed at some point.  We chatted and I asked him if he was sad and he said no--he didn't have a furrowed or puckered brow or anything.  When I left him he was fine and agreeing that it was bed time and time for him to sleep.

Oh my goodness.  What is that all about.  This child is planning to have cry sessions?  I am all for organization and planning, but deciding to have cry time just seems odd.

I don't even know if what I just wrote makes any sense--and part of that is because I don't think I can really make sense of it and I was there :)

Again, I have to say this is one of those laugh and shake my head moments.

4 comments:

  1. it seems as though ezra needs reassurance that you will always be there for him. there is no telling how many times he cried in his crib at the orphanage and no one came, no one was available to come. he is just testing you to see if you will come and he is using a time when he is not sad to see if it works so in those times of true sadness he can be certain you will respond. if you haven't showed him how the baby monitor works you might do that... he will know that you can hear him and are available for him when he needs you.

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    1. Thanks for that point of view... it really makes a lot of sense. I think tomorrow I'll talk to him about the monitor and that might help him feel like he's constantly connected to us. Thanks Elizabeth :)

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  2. Great post, Juanita! I'm Heather and I have a question about your blog! Please email me when you get a free moment at Lifesabanquet1(at)gmail(dot)com :-)

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  3. I hope you will update your blog soon. I loved reading about your wonderful family and all your adventures. Happy New Year to you and your family!

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